Over the years, I have conducted hundreds of private in-home consultations with pet owners. This has given me the opportunity to observe many interactions between dogs and their owners that I could not notice in a group class. Over and over again, I see owners sabotaging their own best efforts to change their pet’s behavior.

Many dog owners call me to their home to help solve a particular problem, for instance, teaching their dog to heel. Teaching a dog to heel requires two things. The owner must learn proper heeling techniques, and the dog must see him or her as a leader - one whom the dog can look to for guidance and direction. However, all too often, I see the owner undermining his position as a leader in the dog’s eyes.

How to avoid sabotaging your position as leader? Make sure your dog earns and deserves his privileges. For example, do not let your dog think that your bed and furniture belong to him. Let him know they are privileged places where he is only allowed when invited. Avoid petting your dog immediately after he nudges your arm. When your dog barks to be let in or out of the house, do not jump up as if you were his doorman. If you respond to your dog’s every whim, you shouldn’t be surprised when he regularly ignores you.

Pay attention to all of your interactions with your dog and how he interprets them. This is not to say you can’t shower your dog with love, attention, affection and treats. Be sure that he earns all that attention and is not always demanding it. Make your dog says “please” by obeying an obedience command such as “sit” before he is allowed any special attention. Only allow indulgences if the dog’s general behavior warrants it. Follow these guidelines and your dog will be more responsive to your position as leader of the pack.